The Retort

A: While there is no set time for a person to reach orgasm, ideally both partners would do so at or near the same time. If you find you are ejaculating faster than you planned you might try masturbating about thirty to forty-five minutes before you plan to have sex with your partner. You can also talk to a doctor about certain medications that can help as well. Just be aware that a number of those medications can actually impact your overall sex drive. Wearing an extra condom is a good solution too, just make sure you’re using two identical condoms since lubrication on some condoms, specifically non-latex condoms can be oil based which can damage a latex based condom.

A: Well, chances are unless he’s completely clueless he’s been picking up on signals for awhile that you are drifting away. If you’re going to end a marriage though, there’s never a good way to do it. Try being as calm as possible when delivering the bad news, even though that’s sometimes easier to say than do. The most important thing is being direct. You don’t want to be harsh, but you need to make your statements clear as to what you want and let him know that the relationship is over. Make sure you give him a chance to express how he feels so that he can have a sense of closure as well. Also, if you are going to do it, it’s better to do it sooner rather than later.

A: This question is as old as time itself, and yet it seems for some to be one of the hardest to master. Don’t be fooled, experience doesn’t make it easier. The truth is that finding a balance is the key. You don’t want to be too aggressive or move too quickly, but if you wait too long she might think you’ve lost interest. Getting to know someone is the most important part, but I’ll get to that in a minute. Usually, if you’re ready to ask a person to be your partner, you’ve known them for a reasonable amount of time and you have a good sense of who they are as a person. You don’t necessarily know everything about them, but you know enough to know you’d like to find out. Always make sure you’re polite and respectful when broaching the question. Unlike what you see in the movies most girls don’t respond well to the “slap on the ass, now go make me dinner” approach. Arrange a time for the two of you to be alone and tell her how you feel. Make sure you give her a chance to say how she feels, and then it’s just a simple matter of asking. Well, maybe not so simple, but you have to find that courage because if you never ask you’ll never know.